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Sometimes when things come to an end, we feel more than slightly lost. When a relationship, friendship or job ends it could seem to crash our world. Our blood, sweat, tears, hopes and often life-long dreams seemed to be shattered. Other times the endings are not so serious and yet they tug at our heart strings. Life could seem to be out-of-control or at a sudden standstill. The truth is though, that life has changed, it will never be the same again. While we do need to honor that transition we should keep in mind that the wise ancients always said that only thing we can count on is CHANGE. If we have experience and who doesn’t once you’re past the age of eight…you know somewhere deep within that this too shall pass. For most of us, eventually it does. But what of those aches that last?

Eckhart Tolle, number # on the Watkins 100 Spiritual Power List, believes we create and maintain problems because they give us a sense of identity. Caroline Myss. Medical intuitive and NYT bestselling author, has said that we have learned the language of woundology and it has become a way to identify ourselves and connect with others. How do we let go with grace and ease while being honest with ourselves? We may be spiritual beings having an earthly experience but if the dog bites, it sure hurts…yet we are not our “story.”

So what are some things you can do while dealing with a transformation in your life? Sometimes these endings are expected like graduating from school, sometimes they come unawares…death, lay-off, natural disaster destroying your home. How can we cope in as spiritual a way as possible?

Here are 8 user-friendly ways to get through endings:

1.Let yourself have a breakdown: Iyanla Vanzant said at Hay House this weekend Sept 17-18, “ Just cuz you’re spiritual doesn’t mean you can’t have a breakdown. But it can’t go on forever. Set a time, cry, yell, let it out, feel what’s inside of you.” According to Dr. William Frey II, PH.D., biochemist at the Ramset Medical Center in Minneapolis crying away your negative feelings releases harmful chemicals that build up in your body due to stress.

2.Talk to a friend: You don’t need ten friends, you need one or two good ones that will truly listen as you express your deepest feelings. Sometimes we REALLY just need to be HEARD and received with love and compassion.

3.Engage in a physical activity: Exercise decreases stress hormones and increases endorphins, chemicals that improve your state of mind. During a serious break-up…I turned UP the DANCE quotient in my life. I started belly dancing like 6 times a week! My mami was stressing out that it would become my next career and I was like “Mami!, be HAPPY I’m moving when all I wanna do is lay there!”

4.Follow a spiritual practice: Use meditation or yoga to bring you into the present moment instead of re-living the past or worrying about the future. Hopefully you have a practice that supports you, if you don’t…it’s a PERFECT time to start one! Make it simple, make it something you like and can manage.

5.Be grateful: Identify what the experience taught you to help develop a sense of closure. Be thankful for the shared time, the experience and the growth that you have acquired. Don’t worry about how the “other” proceeds with you, watch how you proceed. End with as much compassion, love and gratitude that your boundless soul can offer.

6.Laugh it out: Research shows that laughter releases tension, improves your immune system, and even eases pain. People report that  they have healed illness with laughter so go ahead…put some comedic salve on that hurting heart : D

7.Focus on productive actions: Clean your room, your desk, your closet, start a hobby instead of dwelling on things you can’t control. When we are sad or nostalgic we tend to s-l-o-w down so get a move and get rid of stuff. Get a friend to join you on a project, it will get your blood flowing and your heart healing.

8. Forgive: Forgive you, forgive them, forgive, forgive…Even if there was an injustice done to you. FORGIVENESS helps RELEASE. This helps you get closure and keeps it MOVIN. Sometimes we hold on because we don’t want to forget…we are in fear that this will happen again. Forgiveness let’s us get unstuck so we are not living in the past and opens our heart to the PRESENT moment.

Of course, it will take some time but the more you focus on the positive and feel gratitude the more you allow your feelings and life to be transformed. As this situation, person or phase of life leaves you begin to enter a new phase. Think of all the amazing adventures you will experience and know that what makes this existence so enthralling ( enough to make us jump back in & reincarnate) is that its  a journey. It’s up to you how much joy, love & abundance you allow.

Hoping that you let go easily & effortlessly as you welcome with joy; new awareness, opportunities and experiences that allow you to express your most ALIVE and happy self!

V

Question: I always wonder how people interpret signs from God. How do you know? It’s a hard thing to describe. What do you think?-Cocoa Popps, NYC

As Iyanla Vanzant said at a the Hay House conference, “It all begins in the mind.” How people interpret signs from God, a look from a stranger or even street signs on any given street…begins from each and every individual’s own mind. So before we can look at how we may interpret signs from God, we have to look at ourselves more closely.

These core beliefs that create the way we see the world are learned from our families, culture and personal experience. The key here is that they are learned and can be unlearned when they don’t serve our highest and most fabulous good.

Ask yourself: How do I see the world? What do I believe about life? Do I believe in love? Do I believe that it’s supposed to hurt? What defines success for me? What is my belief and relationship to God? The way we define anything has an impact on how we define everything. Our beliefs color our lens and our thoughts, feelings, reactions and experience will become self-fulfilling prophecies.

Do you think that you exist in a fundamentally benevolent world? Or do you believe deep in your heart that it’s a cruel, do-eat-dog existence? Is your version of God, loving and kind? Or punishing?

What we believe…is inevitably what we perceive. This will affect how we define, experience and react what we may call signs from God. For example if the world is a frightening place were there is not enough for everyone a pink slip from a job can seem to be the end of the world. It can make someone wonder/believe they if they were betrayed by a co-worker, an employer or even God.

Another person, trusting in the Universe’s benevolence might be surprised at first, even worried and then decide that its God’s way of saying, “Your time here is done. Take some time off and explore options that may make you happier.”

If your worldview includes that the world is to end in 2012, every earthquake, all political unrest and each piece of disturbing nightly news feeds into your belief as “signs” that the world is ending. If you believe that God is kind and this Universe is benevolent you may very well notice greater kindness in the Universe, more people meditating, an overall increased spiritual awareness in the world that may be signs to you that our Earthly existence is going thru a consciousness shift rather than a “physical end.”

For example, I believe that I am a child of God and that the Universe is conspiring towards my outrageous success! So when it’s time for me to leave a situation, or someone calls me with an opportunity, I see it as a sign and explore it! It doesn’t mean that its not scary but I trust the Universe and while it may not look exactly the way I thought it would…my signs lead me to greater peace and joy.
How to receive and understand a sign from God:

1. Breathe deeply: Take several deep breaths. Allow yourself to truly breathe. So often we do not let ourselves breathe deeply because we fear feeling our feelings.

2. Feel however you feel: Allow yourself in this moment to just feel however you feel as you breathe deeply.

3. Allow yourself to be present: Close your eyes. Gently allow yourself to be present and release attachments to the past and worries of the future. Bring your full attention into the present moment.

4. Pray: One of my favorite prayers, ”Dear God/Goddess/Ganesha/Great Spirit help me to believe the truth about myself – no matter how beautiful it is!”- M. Wiederehr

5. Ask for answers: Most religions and spiritual paths express the idea, “Ask & you shall receive.” Dear God/Goddess/Great Spirit please help me see, know, understand and act on your signs as inspiration for my highest good.”

6. Trust: Know that as you quiet your mind, connect to yourself and open to your divine connection, that the prayers and asking has reached its sacred mark.

7. Pay attention: Watch, listen, breathe and allow yourself to be still. Is what you are sensing as a sign of God bringing you to greater peace? Is it filling you with hope? Is it unsettling in the moment because it asks that you release or let go of something that you want to hold on to? Imagine that you are brave enough to go through the changes… do you see the light at the end of the tunnel? Remember that in order to bring in what you are wanting, whether true love, great friends, new clothes or a successful career…we must be ready to let go of what no longer serves us. Not because it is “bad” simply because it has served you as well as it could and now as you are evolving, so are the relationships, jobs and experiences that you are having.

8. Be open: Signs from the Divine come in emails, a stranger on the bus, random occurrences that are really synchronistic answers to your prayers, a dream, a commercial, a song on the elevator, Oprah, a chance meeting, an unseen break-up, your mom’s advice, your best friend’s jokes, re-runs, an inner feeling or sense, knowing things without knowing how you “know.” Basically, we are in communication with God…all the time, whether we are open or not. When we are open we feel supported and connected to something greater. When we are closed, we feel disconnected, lost and sometimes abandoned.

And remember if you don’t like the way things feel in your world…you can always change your mind.

Smiles & Spirit,
Vanessa

“I feel there are two people inside me – me and my intuition. If I go against her, she’ll screw me every time, and if I follow her, we get along quite nicely.” – Kim Basinger,Actress

What if that annoying little voice inside of you was right?

What if that feeling that something was wrong at work or maybe that it was time to end a relationship, was dead on? Yeah…gulp…what IF…that feeling is right?

Often we ignore that hunch, that celestial nod & that gut reaction. No it would be too horrible to look at, too troublesome to imagine.Or we may just obsess over the thought without delving deeper for understanding or appropriate action.

Hell, well…maybe we are WRONG…Or maybe, just maybe we are more right than we have EVER been and it scares the Mary, the Sophia, Sarasvati & Shekinah out of us!

If we ignore it enough, it will go away. Ok…

News flash! Intuition & deeper wisdom are at work here. It’s a work in progress, but its working and guess what? The more you listen, the more you flow in your life. The more you listen and take appropriate actions or attitude adjustments…the more you are aligned with your highest vision. Yes and another perk? It feels good!

After the storm, or change or adjustment or simple nod of acknowledgement…it feels good that you listened to yourself and went with the flow.

We are raised, at least many people I know…” to put up the good fight”, to “hang in there”…hey I have Venus in Aries myself with a Sun in Taurus, I am your rock and will fight in the trenches alongside people I love and people I work with. One thing I’ve learned as I’ve developed my intuition though…is that what my everyday personality ego “believes”, thinks it knows based on tangible evidence or what defines me needs to be trumped by my inner knowing.

The more I listen, the stronger my internal GPS gets, the better it gets, the more I let go. I know that I’m here to develop highest faith in the invisible and live and breathe it. Walking my talk is part of my soul agreement-integrity & transparency.

Many people come to psychics or intuitives to get “answers” and some answers are available and very inspiring. Patterns and unearthed shadows, reflected and validating impressions of what & who you are come to the fore. When you see a good one you are inspired and feel back on track…you’ve had the truth reflected back to you and you feel you can move forward.

Ultimately though, it’s a journey, it’s a process and really…its Earth School. Ya can’t bypass class cuz you can read energy or tarot cards. You can surely align yourself with a greater spiritual flow that allows for your most fulfilling growth if you listen to the life supporting messages that are available!

I love this quote by Caroline Myss, NYT bestseller & Medical Intuitive:
“Intuition is neither the ability to engage prophecy nor a means of avoiding financial loss or painful relationships. It is actually the ability to use energy data to make decisions in the immediate moment.”

As a professional intuitive and intuition coach I’ve learned so much in my own life and reading others has helped me realize that we are more alike than different. The human condition is universal. I also realize how intuitive we all actually are. Many of my clients feel, hear, sense and see information but often don’t know what to do with it. I understand that sense of, ” what do I do with this?”

While I grew up in lovely Forest Hills visiting my neighborhood’s reform Temples, my family is Argentinean and Catholic. While spirits and intuition were accepted…there was usually a warning with developing it. The dark side with all its covert implications lurked near and no one wanted to invite unwanted attention: from the living or the dead. Frankly,from the stories I heard…you didn’t know which would be worse!

While I knew that paternal Abuela wrote messages from the other side & later found out my maternal Abuelo had a guide…no one said,” hey Nena, have a seat. I’m going to train you.”

I was lucky my mom taught me to cleanse and release “stuff” that I had picked up from others. I just knew there was too much going on in “the world behind our eyes” as Caroline Myss explains it. I knew that I wanted answers and a way to understand our unseen realities. I can count on both hands the times I ignored my inner ding and lived to tell some wretched tales. Most of my life has become about learning to understand, connect and use this amazing gift we all have to one degree or another.

Don’t turn away from your inner senses because it may cause too much trouble, don’t ignore persistent messages. In the end, ignoring your signs & messages may cause you more trouble than you know…but then again, it may have been part of your educational journey.

All of our fears and turning away from ourselves usually leads us to the undeniable truth anyway! You can run…but you can’t hide! All jesting aside, pay attention to the celestial nods and gut feelings you ignored and then as a testing paradigm…try following your gut next time. How does it feel? How did the situation go? Things that make you go,”Hmmm…”

I learned from every instance when I didn’t listen, that’s what helped me become a really great listener now. My failure to listen has led me to surrender and to accept that what I feel/see/hear and know is very real. Even if no one else validates my impressions, through trial and error I have grown to see the wisdom and the alignment it brings to my life.

While many seek psychic and spiritual development (which btw, are not one and the same) as a form of control, to me it has become the art of surrender. I learned techniques and tools but in the end…I still hang off the edge and jump. I am comfortable there and I know that I am safe. When Heaven speaks, I listen, I am thankful, I jump and I soar!

Amen! Ache! A-Ho, So it is, so shall it be!

If you’d like to learn more check out my intensive below : )

Intuition Intensive this Saturday, NYC location 1-4pm

AWAKEN & CONNECT TO YOUR INTUITIVE MUZE

What they are saying about my work:

“Vanessa’s intuition intensive workshops have truly been a blessing for me in all aspects of my life. She taught me how to tap into, access and most importantly trust my intuition with her warmth, compassion, wisdom, and humor! Her guided meditation and visualization exercises have been an invaluable tool that I have carried over into my daily life. Now, I walk taller and lighter in the world with confidence in the decisions and choices that I am making in my personal and professional life. Vanessa is a dynamic beacon and I am truly shining because of her grace and guidance!”-Caralin, teacher

“I know I’m in the best place with the most supportive of people. I feel safe, I sleep peacefully, I can breathe in large crowds, I can differentiate my emotions from those that don’t belong to me. I understand myself more than ever while developing new gifts in the process.Thank you Vanessa for your teachings, your friendship, and your spirit.”- Sincerely, Lisa Marie

” I’ve met many readers in the past, but none of them are like Vanessa! she is a wonder spiritual guide and healer. I’ve been to her 4 times, and every time she’s given me more insight into how my past, has shaped my present and what role it will play in future. However, the most importantly gift that Vanessa has given me is that she’s been able to help me heal. On one visit she opened my mind to the process hypnotism. Let me begin by saying that I was not open at all to this, but after some “very gentle” persuasion I decided to do. I’m so happy we did it because my life has completely changed because of it. Since that day I don’t have a chip on my shoulder, I’m not angry, and I’ve somehow learned to move forward. I consider Vanessa not only part of my new circle of strong women council, but also I consider her a friend – a title I don’t give to everyone.”-S.Roberts, Marketing Coordinator

Smiles & Spirit! Hope to see you there!
Vanessa

To whom it may inspire:

I’d spent most of my life feeling a bit off. I was uncomfortable in crowds, more affected by emotion than others, afraid to sleep, and had an uncanny feeling of always knowing. Its amazing how the universe has a way of providing just what you need at the right time.

Recently I met Vanessa at April Glass during a mini psychic fair where she gave me an intuition reading and instantly I felt a connection.

I knew I had gifts, but I hadn’t made the connection between them and the cause of alot of my anxiety and quality of life issues. Things as simple as a good nights rest that many take for granted.

Also I’m pregnant and knowing the likelihood of bearing a child with the same gifts was a cause for concern since if I couldnt control my own. How was I to protect him or her from the same fears and problems that plagued me?

Vanessa suggested I attend her weekly Intuition Group/Class in order to learn how to use and enhance my gifts positively and not be a victim of them.

I’ve been going for over a month now and have transformed into a confident Empath, able to feel emotion without being smothered by it. I continue to work and learn each week more about myself and others, discovering new gifts, and befriending those like myself.

I love this group because its a healthy spiritual inlet and outlet. A small community full of guidance and acceptance where my gifts as well as friendships flourish. I know Im in the best place with the most supportive of people. I feel safe, I sleep peacefully, I can breathe in large crowds, I can differentiate my emotions from those that don’t belong to me. I understand myself more than ever while developing new gifts in the process.


Thank you Vanessa for your teachings, your friendship, and your spirit.- Sincerely 
Lisa Marie

If you would like to connect with Vanessa regarding Intuition workshops contact her at
oshunstar@yahoo.com

I release the patterns/beliefs/memories/relationships that no longer serve me

I celebrated my birth day in Astoria, surrounded by family, friends, beloved clients who are now friends…in a restaurant I used to go shake my groove thang a decade ago. This Mediterranean restaurant grew from a self-acclaimed “Manhattan-style” bar to an expansive restaurant & lounge with outdoor garden space. Over the years I watched it expand and change. So had I, from private mystic to metaphysical maven still learning about business and passionate about life.

Making new memories, taking in the now, reminded gently of the old. Standing in time I felt like an amalgamation of all that has been, is and will be and I liked it. I’ve earned my humble wisdom, my strength and my earth school scars and stars.

Surrounded by lots of love, great food and spirit-supporting gifts…aromatic candles, totem animal earrings, necklaces and yes…owl salt & pepper shakers, I felt afloat and buoyant. That was four days before my birthday.

The night before I was awash in a shower of texts, FB hollers and loving phone calls. Ahhhh…more buoyancy. Floating on the power of gratitude, joyful and happy for new growth, new relationships and the love of the tried and true-I was a glowing, enraptured, happy chick.

Waking up on my birthday, I felt as I had been hit by bricks. As if I had carefully built a house that crumbled on me without mercy, as I slept. I felt emotional and more than slightly haunted. More than anything, I wanted to jump up from my bed and welcome this New Year!

I was leaving behind the Spiritually intensive 7 year of introspection, spiritual focus, metaphysical learning and solitude. This groggy Birth day morning, I learned that the old year was a bitch and she was hanging on by her Lee press-on nails!

I went to breakfast and did some errands but echoes of love lost and fears of the new arose. My dear friend, who our tribe calls The Little One said,” You’ve been through a lot in the last years and you’ve been thriving. Be gentle with yourself. Be patient. Allow yourself time.”

Wise Little One made my eyes well up. She was right. On this day, I couldn’t seem to cross over into joy, no matter how I tried to re-frame the stories or feelings. Realizing that the ghosts had come home to roost I sat down and decided to deal. “The only way out, is in,” my guides say. So I went in with the intention of taking no prisoners…

Prayer on my lips, my favorite ocean sounds in the air, lots of sage and a meditation space. I allowed myself to feel what was in my heart and what I was carrying in my mind. The mind is the greatest ally OR your greatest enemy.

I called each part of me home to centeredness: my mind, my spirit, my passion, my feelings and my body. Each came bearing a gift, and each had come with some earthly price. Making choices and decisions that are aligned with your values are not always easy. Sometimes you walk away with your integrity & your honesty but still feel the pangs of “what if?” Thankfully, I go to the edge and my questions are usually answered…sooner or later.

I viewed my memories, my thoughts, my stories. I allowed them to play out, I allowed my tears to rise and fall from my lashes. I allowed myself the space to feel all I wanted to hide, ignore and place in some spiritual urn somewhere.

Speaking to each memory, whispering forgiveness, listening for signs, connecting the dots, seeing clearly and then allowing it to disappear into the ether. I gave myself this time to let go.

This process does not happen overnight. We may cut our physical ties, even our metaphysical chords and yet the mind & heart play on with the old songs and tapes. Today as I coaxed my New year into being I allowed myself to cry for the unspoken, the unknown and for the unforgettable truths I had learned.

And finally, I felt freer. I slipped into my candlelit bath and spoke my intentions aloud. This personal 8 year was asking me to step up, go the next level, rise to my vision and manifest my most passionate of intentions. This most awaited 8 year of action, power and intention was beckoning me into a greater freedom.

Being gentle with myself:
I allow for positive, prosperous, creative, soul-affirming beliefs, experiences, relationships and opportunities to support me in my most amazing life path

Stepping out of my cleansing bath, I dressed quickly. Placing my totem earrings & necklace on I welcomed this powerful New year of action & manifestation! With umbrella overhead I ran to a nearby restaurant to meet my four gal pals. My BFF had already ordered happy hour cosmos for all. And you know,a cosmo is a terrible thing to waste…

Amen, So it is & so shall it be, Ashe! A-ho!